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10 First Date tips for the modern gentleman
10 First Date Tips for the Modern Gentleman
Courting a lady isn't as straight forward as it used to be. Back in the day, dating etiquette was well-established and everybody played by the same rules. Men would open doors for women, help them with their coats, and have them home by nine. Couples would go to the soda shop for the first date, to the drive in for the second, up to "old make out point" for the third, and would most likely be getting married on the fourth. The rules of the road have changed. Somewhere between Say Anything, and MTV's Next bus, we throw out the rulebook completely and just started winging it. Our individual quests for love and sex have become as varied and strange as life itself. This was a good and necessary change, but it has made dating... well, terrifying. Without any concrete guidelines, how is the novice romantic supposed to navigate those first few dates?
It's not so hard, really. As far as dating goes, the one thing that hasn't changed over the years is the simple fact that guys should be gentlemen. What follows are some suggested guidelines to help you be a true gentleman despite the weird modern reality in which we find ourselves.
- Don't take her out to dinner on the first date
These days, the most popular first date is the weeknight 'getting-a-couple-drinks' date. And, for good reason. It's non-committal, relatively brief by necessity, and the drinks help to calm everybody's nerves. So, don't try to impress with a 4-star restaurant when you barely know the person. This way, you'll keep your wallet intact and she won't feel beholden. Plus, if the sparks don't fly, it's easy to retire the evening early. - Hug her at the beginning of the date
Breaking down the physical barrier at the beginning of the date makes the rest of the date so much easier. At the beginning of the date, give her a hug, and tell her how delightful she looks. Also, by showing your attraction to her early on, you free her to reciprocate gestures of attraction throughout the date, making it easier for you to judge how well the date is going. - Look your best
Well, duh. But, a lot of the times when guys try to dress up for a date, they end up wearing something they aren't truly comfortable in. You should dress up a little, sure, but, try to wear something that makes you feel like a million bucks. If you don't have any clothes that make you feel like George Clooney in Ocean's 11, go out and find some. - Be a class act
Chivalry may be dead, but she'll like you more if you try to revive it just a little. Open the door for her, pull out her chair, support her on icy sidewalks, etc... Despite the obvious self sufficiency of the modern woman, courtesy is still courtesy. A dash of chivalry shows your attraction and ability to protect and nurture. But, it's important not to take this too far. You don't want to seem old fashion, or as though you're trying real hard to impress. Just be be a good, considerate guy who knows the pleasure of treating a lady as such. - Compliment her and others
When you're on a date it's good to toss out a few genuine compliments. But, unless you're Dennis Leary, you probably already knew that... So, let me say that it's a good idea, not only to compliment your date, but to also talk nicely about people that you both know, or people that you've met throughout the night. By projecting kindness towards people that aren't around, you'll show that you tend to see the positive side of things, which is a very attractive characteristic. - Embrace your inner weird
A lot of people tend to go all glossy on dates. Sort of like a job interview, you really just want to seem appealing. This is a mistake. First, you actually become less attractive by paving over what sets you apart... But, more importantly, if you highlight your idiosyncrasies, you've got a better shot of finding a girl that compliments you, and tolerates your obsession with minimalist free jazz . - Change your sheets
Be prepared... The Boy Scouts know what they're talking about. When you go out on a date with someone, there is always the possibility that you'll end up back at your place. So, change the sheets, and get rid of any debris that is usually strewn about. If, in the end, the date was totally awkward, at least you've got a clean place to come home to. - Pay for the date
That's right... Beyond it being a kind gesture, offering to pay is a good way to get information on how the date is going. When the check comes, beware if she really does seem to want to pay her share. If she wants to pay, it's because she really doesn't want to feel obligated to you in any way shape or form. But, the single fake-wallet-grab is a good sign. Don't worry, she's gonna let you pay this time... She knows you're going to be eating all the ice cream out of her fridge in about two weeks :) - Kiss Her
If the first date has gone reasonably well, go for the kiss at some point towards the end. A so-so date that ends with a great kiss can = an awesome date. Sometimes you just gotta get the kiss out of the way before you can really feel comfortable with someone. So, man up and kiss her. Just do it. She'll be glad you did. Hopefully. - Don't try to sleep with her
Despite the advice from 20 seconds ago (you should still tidy up your place, it's starting to smell a little), having sex on a first date is not a good idea if you think you might want a relationship with the person. Studies have shown that people who have sex on a first date have a lot more trouble developing a good date into a relationship than those who are content delaying gratification. So, even if the date is going really, really well, don't push for the sleep over. After all, it's always nice to have something to look forward to, and, when all is said and done, she'll fancy you a gentleman.
Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Wednesday, December 7, 2011
Kelly speaks at the Treasure Coast luncheon!
On December 5, 2011, our VP & Director, Kelly Leary, M.S. was the VIP Guest Speaker at Treasure Coast Luncheon. The topic of discussion was "How to Stay Smitten". Whether you’re happily taken, actively searching or have just started dating someone, a new year is the perfect time to take a look at your love life and make sure you’re doing everything in your power to keep the good vibes alive. Here are some pics from this entertaining and educational afternoon.
Thursday, November 17, 2011
Halloween Photos + EXTREME Makeover!
These photos were taken by the Precision Dating Paparazzi--headed by Peter Gorman. The first two photos are BEFORE and AFTERS of a new client of Precision Dating. This 48 year old woman went from bookish to glamourous in a Five Hour Extreme Makeover (which could rival TV's finest makeover shows). The makeover photos were taken in November at the Precision Dating office on the intracoastal in Jupiter. The other four "party" photos were taken at Out of the Blue Resort in Jupiter on October 27th during our 3rd Annual Halloween Speed Dating Party. For More Information about our Upscale Date Club and Single Events please call 561-577-DATE (3283) or 772-634-DATE (3283).
This engineer began her membership by requesting some image consulting
(just one of the many services Precision Dating offers).
After a hair color and cut, make-up, and new clothes, this client commented,
"I wish I had met you earlier in my life!"
VP & Director Kelly Leary with Matchmaker Jaclyn Popola encouraging peace and love.
Speed dating for the 50-60 group in progress. "Cinderella" marks down if
she'd like a second date with Prince Charming.
CEO and Doctor take a break from their date for a moment to pose for a photo op.
Three men from different age groups network in between mini-date rounds.
This engineer began her membership by requesting some image consulting(just one of the many services Precision Dating offers).
After a hair color and cut, make-up, and new clothes, this client commented,"I wish I had met you earlier in my life!"
VP & Director Kelly Leary with Matchmaker Jaclyn Popola encouraging peace and love.
Speed dating for the 50-60 group in progress. "Cinderella" marks down ifshe'd like a second date with Prince Charming.
CEO and Doctor take a break from their date for a moment to pose for a photo op.
Three men from different age groups network in between mini-date rounds.Wednesday, October 5, 2011
Kelly out in our community
Treasure Coast Chapter
General Membership Meeting
Monday, December 5, 2011 - 1:30 p.m.
Sandhill Cove, 1500 SW Capri St., Palm City
(at the intersection of Matheson Ave., Murphy Rd. and Mapp Rd
Across the road from Holy Redeemer Catholic Church)
Special Guest Speaker
Kelly Leary, M.S., Vice President Precision Dating
“How to Stay Smitten”
Whether you’re happily taken, actively searching or have just started dating someone, a new year is the perfect time to take a look at your love life and make sure you’re doing everything in your power to keep the good vibes alive.
Kelly Leary, M.S., uses her upbeat personality, education and 19 years industry experience to help singles become “un-single”.
Kelly has her own monthly dating advice column called The Singles Scene, which can be seen all over Palm Beach and the Treasure Coast. She has been in the ABC News, The Palm Beach Post, and was a special guest on a hit radio show: “Let’s Talk Romance”. You may access her at www.myprecisiondating.com
Dessert and Coffee will be served
Please respond by November 26, 2011
$5.00 per person
Barbara Tallering (772) 419-3055
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Sunday, October 2, 2011
Friday, September 30, 2011
It's Halloween time!
As we prepare for this year's Annual Halloween Speed Dating bash, Precision Dating looks back on past Halloween parties and fondly remembers all the fun matches that were made these nights!
Kelly with her fiancee - circa 2009
Keeping a 50:50 men to women ratio at every party ensures a great night!
Great costumes among the 60+ crowd!
Kelly & Jaclyn with just two of our amazing men! Oct. 2010
Kelly with her fiancee - circa 2009
Keeping a 50:50 men to women ratio at every party ensures a great night! 
Great costumes among the 60+ crowd!
Kelly & Jaclyn with just two of our amazing men! Oct. 2010
Thursday, September 29, 2011
Online Dating Horror Story...We are Not Online Dating
This week new research released by the University of Leicester found that more than 200,000 people in the U.K. have been victims of online romance scams, according to EScienceNews.
The online study showed that 52 percent of those surveyed knew of "romance fraud," and one in every 50 online adults (2 percent) knew someone who had been duped by it.
I also know someone taken in by one of these scams: me.
In April of 2011, I was in the thrall of what I believed was the epic romance of my life. I had met him online, and over the course of our five years together, we developed what I thought was a deeply loving relationship. There was only one problem: He refused to let me see him.
It wasn't as if he hadn't described himself at least a thousand times, to me or to anyone else who might ask: 6'7" tall, long black hair, and what was once a nice face. He said he feared showing himself in a photo because he now had cancer, which had taken a toll on his looks. Letting anyone see his real face was simply out of the question.
I understood. I was a cancer survivor myself, so I knew how important it was to be loved and supported during this impossibly heart-breaking time.
When we first connected, he was using the name Dimitri. We took it to the phone, where he presented himself flawlessly. Between the soft, southern accent and the mysterious self-description, I felt I had finally met the man of my dreams. I vowed to see him through the cancer -- I even begged to come visit him, but he refused to let me.
It turns out there were many others who also wished to see the face of this supposedly dying man, because he made himself quite popular -- especially to those whose hearts were so big that they'd readily open their wallets for him. He had the charisma of the ultra-vulnerable: gentle, lovely, frail, and always the undeserving victim of circumstance. People seemed to find him irresistible.
When he wasn't playing the long-suffering cancer patient with me and who knows how many others, he posed as the autistic guy with the genius I.Q., the adult survivor of horrific child abuse or the bi-sexual flirt. He called himself, "Alex Lee," "Valyn," "Dimitri," or "Xander," depending on the year. But always he packaged himself as a dark and brooding Eric Draven clone, virtually guaranteed to appeal to a certain kind of lonely woman sitting at her computer, waiting for someone special to pay attention to her.
I was one of those women, and I believed it all. But I had something that made me especially valuable to Dimitri: I was relatively well known, popular, and respected. If I told people that I was in love with someone wonderful, I was taken at my word. And word swiftly became art. Out of my love for this poor dying man, I spared him the hassle of having to answer to anyone who asked for a photo by creating illustrations, depicting what I believed he looked like, for the entire world to see.
He was now validated. He was associated with me, had alluring images to represent himself with, and as he worked the cancer/abuse sympathy strings, dozens of compassionate people began sending their hard-earned cash to an alias in a small town somewhere in the Kentucky hills.
At that point I still had no idea that he wasn't who he claimed to be. Instead, after five years of romance, I was fixated on finally seeing the person I loved.
"Please show me your face," became the mantra I repeated every time we spoke, and that question eventually exposed the fraud. I pleaded and insisted until I wore him down. "Alex Lee" must have realized that the scheme had run its course, and agreed to finally get on the web cam and show me the truth:
The man I had loved and sacrificed so much for was a woman.
And not just any woman. She was an experienced scam artist with three grown daughters and two grandchildren. There will never be any words to adequately describe my shock and disgust. It never occurred to me that the man I came to adore would turn out to be someone so utterly devoid of conscience, so thoroughly steeped in duplicity.
She issued a public apology, denied ever having cancer and slunk off into a well-monitored oblivion due to the many people who reported her to the FBI, after the con was exposed.
So, how do stupid things like this happen to smart people like me? Desperate loneliness is a good place to start -- that, and a willingness to believe in a fantasy. After all, the heart wants what the heart wants, and I wanted love. Or maybe it's just impossible to think that anyone would lie about having cancer -- especially to a survivor.
But she did lie, and this terribly hurtful thing did happen. And it can happen to anyone -- in fact, it's happening to someone, right this minute.
Be aware of who you are talking with online. A voice on the phone will tell you nothing, a photo even less: Con artists can easily alter their voices and send photos of entirely different people. If you get a vibe that there's something wrong, insist on a live camera chat.
When I saw the real face of the person who conned me for five years, I saw an ugliness that way surpassed the physical. Simply put, it was criminal.
The online study showed that 52 percent of those surveyed knew of "romance fraud," and one in every 50 online adults (2 percent) knew someone who had been duped by it.
I also know someone taken in by one of these scams: me.
In April of 2011, I was in the thrall of what I believed was the epic romance of my life. I had met him online, and over the course of our five years together, we developed what I thought was a deeply loving relationship. There was only one problem: He refused to let me see him.
It wasn't as if he hadn't described himself at least a thousand times, to me or to anyone else who might ask: 6'7" tall, long black hair, and what was once a nice face. He said he feared showing himself in a photo because he now had cancer, which had taken a toll on his looks. Letting anyone see his real face was simply out of the question.
I understood. I was a cancer survivor myself, so I knew how important it was to be loved and supported during this impossibly heart-breaking time.
When we first connected, he was using the name Dimitri. We took it to the phone, where he presented himself flawlessly. Between the soft, southern accent and the mysterious self-description, I felt I had finally met the man of my dreams. I vowed to see him through the cancer -- I even begged to come visit him, but he refused to let me.
It turns out there were many others who also wished to see the face of this supposedly dying man, because he made himself quite popular -- especially to those whose hearts were so big that they'd readily open their wallets for him. He had the charisma of the ultra-vulnerable: gentle, lovely, frail, and always the undeserving victim of circumstance. People seemed to find him irresistible.
When he wasn't playing the long-suffering cancer patient with me and who knows how many others, he posed as the autistic guy with the genius I.Q., the adult survivor of horrific child abuse or the bi-sexual flirt. He called himself, "Alex Lee," "Valyn," "Dimitri," or "Xander," depending on the year. But always he packaged himself as a dark and brooding Eric Draven clone, virtually guaranteed to appeal to a certain kind of lonely woman sitting at her computer, waiting for someone special to pay attention to her.
I was one of those women, and I believed it all. But I had something that made me especially valuable to Dimitri: I was relatively well known, popular, and respected. If I told people that I was in love with someone wonderful, I was taken at my word. And word swiftly became art. Out of my love for this poor dying man, I spared him the hassle of having to answer to anyone who asked for a photo by creating illustrations, depicting what I believed he looked like, for the entire world to see.
He was now validated. He was associated with me, had alluring images to represent himself with, and as he worked the cancer/abuse sympathy strings, dozens of compassionate people began sending their hard-earned cash to an alias in a small town somewhere in the Kentucky hills.
At that point I still had no idea that he wasn't who he claimed to be. Instead, after five years of romance, I was fixated on finally seeing the person I loved.
"Please show me your face," became the mantra I repeated every time we spoke, and that question eventually exposed the fraud. I pleaded and insisted until I wore him down. "Alex Lee" must have realized that the scheme had run its course, and agreed to finally get on the web cam and show me the truth:
The man I had loved and sacrificed so much for was a woman.
And not just any woman. She was an experienced scam artist with three grown daughters and two grandchildren. There will never be any words to adequately describe my shock and disgust. It never occurred to me that the man I came to adore would turn out to be someone so utterly devoid of conscience, so thoroughly steeped in duplicity.
She issued a public apology, denied ever having cancer and slunk off into a well-monitored oblivion due to the many people who reported her to the FBI, after the con was exposed.
So, how do stupid things like this happen to smart people like me? Desperate loneliness is a good place to start -- that, and a willingness to believe in a fantasy. After all, the heart wants what the heart wants, and I wanted love. Or maybe it's just impossible to think that anyone would lie about having cancer -- especially to a survivor.
But she did lie, and this terribly hurtful thing did happen. And it can happen to anyone -- in fact, it's happening to someone, right this minute.
Be aware of who you are talking with online. A voice on the phone will tell you nothing, a photo even less: Con artists can easily alter their voices and send photos of entirely different people. If you get a vibe that there's something wrong, insist on a live camera chat.
When I saw the real face of the person who conned me for five years, I saw an ugliness that way surpassed the physical. Simply put, it was criminal.
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Fox News: Online Dating Creates Dangers
Tragic story about the true dangers of online dating:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-zrW5eWx2A
Click to watch the video on YouTube.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-zrW5eWx2A
Click to watch the video on YouTube.
Monday, September 19, 2011
Halloween Party Soon!!!!!
Last year's party was so fun. I twas so nice to get out of the house and spend some fun time with some nice people. Make your plans to go now...don't miss it this year!!
End of Summer Luau party pictures!
Our End of Summer private luau speed dating party at Out of the Blue Restaurant, located at a private, waterfront country club, was a great success! We are proud to announce...92 MATCHES were made the night. That means 92 second dates for our happy members! Here are some pictures from the evening.
Kelly introduces two members in the 60-70 age group for the first time
The 30-40s group and the 50-60s group mixing and mingling in between sessions
Handsome local attorney meets beautiful accountant on their first speed date of the night
Speed dating in session at Out of the Blue Restaurant
Premier Matchmaker, Jaclyn, spending quality time with a new VIP member at the party
Our next event will be our Third Annual Halloween speed dating party in October. Details TBA to MEMBERS ONLY. Contact us today for more info, as these events do sell out extremely fast! In the Palm Beaches, call (561) 577-DATE (3283). On the Treasure Coast, call (772) 634-DATE (3283). We look forward to seeing you there!
Kelly introduces two members in the 60-70 age group for the first time
The 30-40s group and the 50-60s group mixing and mingling in between sessions
Handsome local attorney meets beautiful accountant on their first speed date of the night
Speed dating in session at Out of the Blue Restaurant
Premier Matchmaker, Jaclyn, spending quality time with a new VIP member at the partyOur next event will be our Third Annual Halloween speed dating party in October. Details TBA to MEMBERS ONLY. Contact us today for more info, as these events do sell out extremely fast! In the Palm Beaches, call (561) 577-DATE (3283). On the Treasure Coast, call (772) 634-DATE (3283). We look forward to seeing you there!
Tuesday, September 6, 2011
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