Some of the Many Benefits of Love-Kelly Leary

I’ve been doing some research on the benefits of love and I have found so many reasons to jump on this like never before this 2011.  Be firm in your resolution to love more this year.  This can be the most exciting and promising year of your life--if you want it to be.  Your life (and love) is in your hands. 

In an article published in Psychology Today, called “The Power of Love,” it states that: 
“Love is as critical for your mind and body as oxygen.  It’s not negotiable.  The more connected you are, the healthier you will be both physically and emotionally.  The less connected you are, the more you are at risk.”  I.E.  Love really is a cure all.  It is the ultimate panacea.  

Love is good for your health.  Countless studies show that married people live longer than unmarried people.  I have seen the miracle of love in my own office time and time again.  I have met people post break up or sadly, death of spouse, and low and behold as soon as they begin meeting new friends they become “whole” again.  In contrast, loneliness is a risk factor for Alzheimer’s, suicide, and many other terrible ailments.  Love is hope and hope is a cure.  Therefore love is the best natural medicine that exists.  

Love is good for weight loss.  One of my favorite “bonuses” to my job is that many members may join and say:  “I want to lose a few pounds and get in better shape.”  Well, what a better motivator then having a date Saturday night?   I have seen ladies and men that join with the infamous “ten pounds” on their minds.  Within weeks of joining the weight seems to just fall off.  Why?  Mainly because of the renewed faith and connectedness to others.   It’s so impressive to be a part of an upscale dating club, that has a side effect of weight loss.  It really is neat to witness! 

Love can also ward of depression.  The less love you have, the more depressed you are likely to feel.  This is one reason why I decided to work in this business instead of pursue my doctorate in psychology.  I realized at a young age that love is a better antidepressant than most.  What a plan--love more and you will feel better.  The world will open up to you and embrace you.  Love less or “hate” more and the world will close up on you…you will be isolated…and hence more depressed.   Yes, there are people that need real medication and that is o.k….but the ultimate power lies in love.  

Love is also good for the E-C-O-N-O-M-Y.  Think about it…if you are feeling love at home…if you have a hot date to look forward to on the weekend or a romantic getaway planned…don’t you think you will perform better on the job?  YES, you will!  You will walk taller, smile bigger, and show more love to others in your office and around you--hence attracting positive results and situations.  You will be like a magnet for good energy…and as a result you will acquire more sales, you may get a raise, or even a promotion...whatever your goals may be…they will come easier.  

Love will make you more creative, attractive, energetic, optimistic, confident, inventive, sentimental, receptive, and motivated.   If love is a choice…than certainly this is the time to choose it relentlessly.   May you all have a windfall of love and all its benefits this year.  Tackle your problems with love and they will melt away.  Like the Beatles song says:  “All you need is love…love is all you need.”  Roll up all your typical New Years Resolutions, put them in a bag, and call it LOVE.  

Mariah Fox...Our Tampa Office Expert Match Maker

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Speed Dating

The trick to successful speed dating is not to take it too seriously. It is meant to be a bit of fun, an enjoyable way to spend an evening. Dont get me wrong, love can and will blossom at these events, however this is usually a result of the introduction and subsequent dates. That said, there was a case in the press recently of a couple that are happily married, they claim love at first sight following a brief meeting at a speed dating event. I try to go to a speed dating event at least once a month. I try to attend events that are in my local area, however different to the last one I went to. The reason for this is because, you do tend to see the same faces at some of these events, and the whole idea to me is to meet with new people. I never have any expectations of finding the one at a speed dating event. Instead, I prefer to keep an open mind and go with the flow. To me, the best part about speed dating is meeting people. They say that you can make up your mind about someone within 30 seconds of meeting them for the first time, I think this is true. So a 15 minute date with someone is fantastic, if you dont like them it is not a long to wait until the next one. On the other hand, if you do like them, you can ask to meet them for longer next time. Nowadays, speed dating is a much more widely excepted form of dating and entertainment. There are speed dating events that cater to all types of people and niches, for example there are events that are aimed at specific age groups, sexuality or in extreme cases Ive seen, professions. Its true; I saw an advert for a speed dating event designed exclusively for farmers, quite why farmers should be picked out is any ones guess. If youve never been speed dating before, you are seriously missing out on some fun. Its a great chance to meet people and mingle with like minded people. My only advice would be to think about the questions that you will ask. This is a real opportunity to shine because most participants ask the same general questions; what is your job, likes, dislikes, do you have pets etc? Try thinking outside the box, after 30 dates youll stand out more if you approached it differently.

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Kelly's First Date Tips

Top 10 - FIRST DATE TIPS

 

1.  Dress to Impress--The most common complaint I get is from a woman about how the man was dressed.  Remember, a date is not "work" so leave the work boots home, put on a sharp shirt and pants. Get a hair cut be clean shaven.  Jeans are fine, as long as they are not "work" jeans.  Women should dress nice and fashionable, not "business like"...attraction is a component of a successful date.  We all have some of this...and it should be an ingredient in any date.  This is your first date and you should always put your best look forward.  Wow them with your sense of style and commitment to be and look your very best for them.  Take the time to dress and primp before the date.  Ladies...don't forget your lipstick!

 

2.  Be on time and don't reschedule--it sends a bad message.  You are building a possible relationship (if that is what you are seeking).  So, you should start with good scores from the get go.  Unreliability has never been a hit in relationships.  I'm sure we all have some stories about that.  Unreliable from the get go can often lead to big issues later on. 

 

3.  Avoid ALL talk about exes--including ex boyfriends, ex husbands, ex girlfriends, etc...  If you are talking badly about someone you chose to love at one point in your life, really, you are talking bad about yourself and will eventually talk bad about the person you are on a date with.  This is a "Lose-Lose" situation anyway you slice it, so don't even go there.  You would think we've all got this rule down by now, but I hear again and again--that people still do not get it.  Never break this rule!!  If your date asks you about your ex, politely respond with, "I would rather talk about you." 

 

4.  Don't complain (about anything).  Again, we know this, but people still fail to comply.  This is another no-brainer… your first impression and first time with this date, so don't complain about the restaurant, the service, or the food.  Make light of it.  If you really are getting bad service--make the most of it and say--"Well, we are still having fun despite the service here."  ; Life is what you make it...so if you get a lemon, make some lemonade.  People that do this well are impressive to others.  This is an admirable trait and an easy one to develop.

 

5.  If you like your date, show your interest.  We don't read minds so signals of interest and approval are meaningful.  We all want to be loved and adored.  So if you find yourself admiring your date for his shoes, his confident demeanor, his sense of humor...let him know!!  This will tell him you are confident enough to say and tell the truth and may very well get you to that second date--if that is what you want.  (Be careful what you wish for....because if you follow this advice you will end up on a second date for sure!!)

 

6.  The 50/50 rule:  and NO, I’m not talking about the tab!  Sorry guys, but I firmly believe that a first date (at the very least) is the guy’s responsibility.  I am talking about the conversation.  Try to make sure that you are talking 50% of the time and so is your date.  A big complaint that I get is that "He/She monopolized the conversation...I couldn't get a word in.  Well, hence the reason for this rule.  Keep it in mind.

 

7.  Don't tell your life story on a first date--EVER.  Save it for the second, third, fourth, fifth dates...there is something sexy in a mystery.  It is fun to explore and get to know someone over time.  That is what builds a relationship.  Always leave him (or her) wanting more.....of YOU!  

 

8.  Don't go into any medical problems you may have on a first date--unless you have a med alert situation--then I suppose your date may need to know.  Some daters, out of nervousness, may go overboard giving too much information (T.M.I.)....don't be guilty of this.  It’s a big turn off.  This is also a no-brainer, but you would be surprised how many people make this mistake.

 

9.  Smile, be peaceful, happy, engaging.  Be your best...enjoy your date.  Everyone has something to bring to the table--no matter who they are.  You can find good in everyone.  Find that good in your date...and if you want to see him or her again...you will. 

 

10.  This Dating stuff is more in your hands then you know.  If you want to see your date again, and you have followed rules 1 thru 9 then you should be in a good position to move to the next level.  At least one full day after the date, do call or indicate in someway that you enjoyed the date and would love to do it again.  The 24 hour call can be made by the male or female.  Sometimes men need the reassurance.  If you are the woman, and you make this call 24 hours after date #1  to tell him you'd like to do it again, and you don't hear back....then you should move on.  However, that first 24 hour call is fair game and sometimes polite for the woman to do so.  I've seen success stories both ways. 

 

 

One of The Many Articles Published By Kelly Leary- Our Dating Expert

Singles Scene News:  Why it’s the perfect time to join a private dating club.

In my 20 years of experience in the dating business, I’ve seen firsthand how far the dating industry has come. Men and women have become more comfortable using unconventional methods to meet their mates. In fact, what was once considered a last resort method of dating (on line) is now considered mainstream.  This is just one reason why our private dating club is so busy. 

Even serial online daters have become disenchanted with the risky anonymity of the internet. Anyone can create a fraudulent profile with outdated photos and misleading information.  At Precision Dating, we meet everyone face to face…thereby maximizing quality dates… and more like dating a friend then a stranger.

The biggest change I’ve seen in the last two decades is the quality of the clientele. Back then, people used a dating service because they couldn’t get a date. Today, the people who walk into my office are the movers and shakers in the community, good looking, and financially secure. They’ve dated a bit, but the bar scene and the internet just isn’t for them.  Many join because they are too busy to look or don’t meet quality singles.  Our members can get dates but are not meeting the right type on their own. They just do better dating in our club.  It’s all about quality single men and women wanting to meet each other.

Precision Dating, the upscale dating club that I direct, is safe, fun and set up to attract upwardly mobile singles from their late 20’s to comfortably retired men and women in their late 70’s. All of our clients share common traits, they’re financially sound, decent and kind. They’re tired of meeting the wrong people in the wrong places. They’re ready to commit the time and resources to meet the right person.

We don’t accept walk-in clients, as our members are carefully pre-screened over the phone before they can even get an appointment.  In addition, we take the photos ourselves – there are no surprises on a first date. In addition to that, we also hold private parties. Our clients routinely tell us they appreciate the “authentic dating experiences” we provide.

After 20 years in the matchmaking/dating industry, we’re experiencing our biggest boom yet. People who work hard for their money want to share the good life they’ve created with someone special. Our members want to be in a meaningful relationship – they’re done with games and bars. They’re done with “happy hour” and ready for long-term happiness.  We all want happiness…and the ultimate form of happiness is togetherness.   That is where we step in and produce!  We’ve helped hundreds of people find long-lasting love and companionship. 

I’ve discovered that our members are smarter than the average person. They realize life is short, and they want to spend it with someone they love and value. Our clients know a wise investment when they see it, especially that our club will save them time, money and headaches in the long run. 

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alr2005 Reviews: 1 Posted on 5/17/2011 Finding Love Again After losing my husband of 35 years, I doubted I would ever find love again. I am not a bar person nor would I ever do "online dating". All my friends are married, as are the majority of members at my country club. I read Kelly's article for a few months before finally calling for more info. I was nervous seeing as how I hadn't dated for nearly 40 years! But, it was the best decision and best investment I ever made. Less than six months after joining I met a lovely gentleman who had been widowed about the same time I was. He is kind, stable, compassionate, and so much fun to be with. We have been together since 2009 and are both so happy. I never would have met him if not for Precision Dating and the help of their wonderful staff. Was this review helpful?     Link to This Review      Post on Facebook    Share on Twitter

Pymilla39 Reviews: 1 Posted on 4/21/2011 cost? What is the cost to join? This seems like a big secret with their agents and website. If anyone can share that with me - I have an appointment and was told I am going to spend 1.5 hours in an interview. I find this interesting that I was told I would be considered for membership since I'm the one doing the hiring here! If it costs me, then I figure I am the boss, right? So, any membership info before I decide to use my 1.5 hours in my "interview" would be greatly appreciated. Was this review helpful?     Link to This Review      Post on Facebook    Share on Twitter

HeartGirl22 Reviews: 1 Posted on 5/11/2010 I have been so pleased! I joined Precision Dating last year and have been so happy in my decision! The men I met have been kind, stable, financially secure, upstanding gentlemen. Because Precision takes all the photos and oversees the writing of the profiles, I never have to worry that the guy I'm going to meet might not look like his pic! Or that he will have lied on his profile about his age, height or MOST IMPORTANTLY marital status. What great peace of mind! The staff was always courteous and willing to go above and beyond for me. I have now been with the same wonderful man for about six months, and, in fact, we both just went Inactive and decided to be exclusive :) I couldn't be happier. For a long time I thought there was no hope aside from the insincerity of bars or the insecurity of online dating.I was WRONG. Precision Dating is the RIGHT choice for men and women of any ageit is the SAFEST and BEST choice I ever made. I would recommend them wholeheartedly to anyone!! Thank you Precision! Was this review helpful?     Link to This Review      Post on Facebook    Share on Twitter

truthBhere Reviews: 1 Posted on 4/19/2010 Top Notch Service with Top Notch Leaders I am a local Attorney and I have had much success and fun dating in the Precision Dating club. I enjoy meeting people that are pre-screened. Unlike online dating, I feel that the ladies I am meeting are much more together and decent. I enjoy the events and the Staff. This club has a long list of fans and followers. I have met very few people who have anything negative to say about the club. The staff is helpful, organized, and supportive. You'd have to be a pretty unattractive person (inside and outside) to have a problem with this club. I am proud to share the news with the public. Truth be told. Was this review helpful?     Link to This Review      Post on Facebook    Share on Twitter

FLbeauty1 Reviews: 1 Posted on 9/6/2009 Im Engaged!! I joined this private dating club after using online services. This has dream come true for me. Kelly and her staff were so helpfulI truly felt like I had new friends working with me to meet Mr. Right. After three months of being a member--I met the ONE. Six months after that he proposed. He is the most handsome and kind man I have ever met. We never would have met if it wasnt for Precision Dating and the fun Speed Dating Events. Thank you Precision Dating!! Was this review helpful?     Link to This Review      Post on Facebook    Share on Twitter

WE ARE NOT INTERNET DATING

                                     News Story From ABC News

Internet dating has become an extremely popular way to meet people, and has indeed brought a lot of lonely folks together. But not every date turns out like an eHarmony ad. So in observance of Valentine's Day, we consulted readers, friends, a few experts, and a number of sites (notably Craigslist Personals) to gather the funniest, strangest, and most horrific online dating stories we could find. Lonely people, broken hearts, false claims, dashed expectations, doctored photos, bailouts, and no-shows--it's all part of the online dating experience, and we unearthed a little of everything.

"Beth" from Portland, Oregon, posted this note at an online dating site:

Online dating can produce some of the worst dates ever. The last guy I went out with brought a sock puppet--a sock puppet--on our date and tried to talk to me with it. To be cute, I think. But it freaked me out. Seriously. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but no sock puppets, please.

The old mid-date disappearing act has taken on a whole new utility in the age of Internet dating. Exhibit A comes from "Jill" in the San Francisco Bay Area, who posted the following on Craigslist:

I get an ad from a guy roughly my age who has a hot bike, and some pics showing he's fairly attractive. We e-mail back and forth a bit, he says he's definitely looking for the same thing, and finally we agree to meet at a coffee shop. The only thing I recognized was the bike. He resembled his pics the way Stuart Little resembles Mickey Mouse. His teeth were black, absolutely disgusting, and he had a cyst beside his left eye. He had to be 10 to 15 years older than me.... Not only that, but I got the distinct impression that he personally knew where a few bodies were buried.

I couldn't help it. I gaped. Then I couldn't look at him at all. I flipped the pages of the magazine I had brought in case of a no-show and glanced at him periodically, wondering how the [expletive removed] was I going to extricate myself from this. So he says he's going to get a coffee. And goes inside. That was his first mistake. Leaving my coffee and magazine, and barely taking time to snatch up my purse, I put my cell phone to my ear like I had just received an emergency call and literally hauled ass down the street to my car before he came back out. Karma says I am going to pay for that. Fine.

Thought for the day!!

”My boyfriend used to ask his mother, 'How can I find the right woman for me?' and she would answer, 'Don't worry about finding the right woman- concentrate on becoming the right man.’ ”  


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Article from Inside edition...Online Dating is Scary!!

wOMAN MATCHED WITH CONVICTED SEX OFFENDER

Airdate: 4/19/2011

She's the woman who says she was sexually assaulted by a man she met on match.com and now she's ready to show her face.

Carol Markin wants the world to know about her match made in hell and is doing all she can to make sure it doesn't happen to anybody else.

Markin, a TV and film producer with a degree from Harvard, claims she was sexually assaulted on her second date with Alan Wurtzel, who she met on the popular dating site.

"He jumped me and he forced me into a compromising postion. He is a very big man...It was comply or potentially get hurt. I couldn't believe it happened," Markin says.

She later learned he'd been convicted six times before for sexual battery. Wurtzel is pleading not guilty to Markin's charges, claiming sex was consensual.

Markin filed a civil suit against match.com, demanding a screening process to weed out sexual predators. The company says they intend to begin screening everybody through the national sex offenders registry.
"My crime could have been prevented if they had those precautions in place," Markin says.

Ironically, Wurtzel might not have been weeded out by match.com's forthcoming screening process because his prior convictions were for misdemeanor offenses only.

More than ten million people use match.com in hopes of meeting that special someone.
"I hope that it will be a safer world for online dating," says Markin.
She will leave her lawsuit open until she is convinced that match.com is doing a better job screening members.

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Last Call for Your Summer of LOVE 2011

Two happy members married since Nov. 2008

Is it August already? This summer has flown by...children are already prepping to go back to school and Labor Day is around the corner. Before you know it Halloween, Thanksgiving, Chanukah, and Christmas will be here. Yes, the holidays will be upon us in the blink of an eye. No one likes having Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner alone. Right? Time moves so fast so lets plan ahead for a wonderful end to 2011.

We plan our future so diligently, our finances, our career, our health or at least, we should be planning. Do you plan for your love life as well? Most of us do not. Maybe that is why the divorce rate is so high. If you are one of the many that do not plan ahead for a good love life, than you should start now ... and maybe your next true love will be the greatest love of all. For those of you who are single and read this column regularly, or are newly single, you should take this "time out" to think about the next love of your life. If you know you don't want to be alone (and who does?!), then you should position yourself to be around the right types of "single people".

It is not at all uncommon to settle for the first man or woman that comes along in an effort to avoid being alone. Don't let "loneliness avoidance" be your motivation. Instead, be motivated by finding the right match for you, in essence, your paradigm will shift, and you will be on the right track for finding a healthy relationship which should become your new highest motivator.

Go after your hearts desire, just like you'd go after anything else you want...that great business deal or that great car you have had your eye on. Whatever drives you--add in a healthy loving relationship. You've probably heard it over and over from your friends, family, and work associates that its time to find your special man or woman especially if they know that you want to be in a relationship. Watching TV alone on the week-ends or being the third or fifth or seventh wheel at a party gets old really fast. Not to mention--it's just not necessary. There are solutions--right in front of you.

Being single isn't easy and hopefully, its only a temporary situation for you. So, be smart. Consider your singledom as a time of self-growth, an awakening to life and finding happiness and love that lies within so that you can move on to sharing your love with someone else. If you are reading this article you are ready to meet new people. Try doing some things spontaneously...something fun....out of the ordinary where someone somewhere will notice you. Last month Precision Dating hosted a Sunset Cruise for Singles...it was something different and fun for clients and staff...lots of people were looking and lots of happy couples were united for the first time on this fine evening of Friday, July 15th.

Clients and staff having a blast!

Beautiful ladies enjoying the sunset cruise

Luckily our next celebration is just around the bend, at the end of the Summer we will be hosting a Private Luau Speed Dating Party to honor and close out this Summer of Love in style!

We hope to see you there, and no matter what you decide to do with your "Love Life Plan", do make one. In addition, please be persistent and positive. Visualize a loving relationship and you will have one soon. It's up to you. It's in your hands--literally! Don't stop believing!!!

Love & Luck,
Kelly xoxo